The consequences are part of the appeal, and character comes of consequence.
There’s a line in Fight Club that says, “We are a generation of men raised by women.” That’s not quite the problem.
One of the big perks of living in the world of dedicated climbers and skiers is the opportunity to meet men and women of good character. Sure, there are a lot of jokers at high levels of both sports whose main and honest reason for participation is that they get to claim themselves as participants, that they get to tell others that they’re a climber, or a skier, who is, by the way, awesome. But, for the most part, the people who are drawn to sports of commitment seem to be those of solid values who push themselves against risk to further their self-knowledge and feed their sense of adventure.
I call this a perk because it’s uncommon to find such people at large in the rest of the world. This is especially true of men. At a concert that I attended last night, I was frankly a bit shocked to see that the wall flowers glued defensively to the sides of the venue were all men. That doesn’t jive with the traditional image of the shy girl off to the side, waiting to be drawn onto the floor by a confident man. That doesn’t jive because the gender in question seems to be losing its collective confidence.
The evidence against us isn’t limited to the walls of concert venues. In my conversations with women, a common theme arises when we talk about their troubles finding partners. Sure, there are plenty of men out there, but they all act like boys. For women dating men in their early twenties, this isn’t all that surprising, and is maybe even excusable, but the theme extends to gents in their thirties and even their forties. In short, they’re either egoistic to a fault, or more commonly, they’re needy, lack confidence, and can’t keep up a mature relationship. Read on →